Nurturing Connections with Adult Children During the Holiday Season
With the holiday season around the corner, many empty nest moms are looking forward to reconnecting with their adult children. However, I understand that this can be a complex and emotional time, so I want to provide you with some tips on how to make the most of your time together, whether your adult children are physically present or far away.
For moms who have their adult children with them for the holidays, I suggest finding activities that everyone can enjoy. This can include baking together, playing board games, watching movies, going for a walk to enjoy the holiday decorations, or simply having a heartfelt conversation. It's important to give each other space and respect each other's boundaries, and remember that your adult children are independent now and may need some alone time to recharge.
For moms who cannot physically be with their adult children during the holidays, there are still ways to connect and celebrate together. One option is to set up a video call or a virtual get-together, where you can cook the same meal, watch a movie together, or even play games together online. You can also send a care package filled with their favorite treats or items, along with a heartfelt note to show your love and affection.
One thing not to do over the holidays? Bring up any topics that cause tension, frustration, or arguments. Leave the heavy conversations for after the new year whenever possible. Bringing up those unpleasant topics will only lead to negative memories associated with the holidays—and coming home. Let the holidays be a time of joy, connection, and fun.
That’s not to say you can’t express your sadness that they’ll have to leave soon (or couldn’t come home at all). It just means maybe leaving the discussion about why they lost their job, their latest reckless driving ticket, or or other significant and unpleasant conversations for another time.
Regardless of whether your children are physically present or far away, the most important thing is to stay connected and communicate openly. Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, and encourage your children to do the same. Remember to listen actively and be present in the moment. This can help deepen your relationship and create a strong bond that will last long after the holidays are over.
I hope that these tips have provided you with some guidance on how to connect with your adult children during the holiday season. Remember that this is a time to celebrate family, love, and connection, and with a little effort, you can make this holiday season a memorable one for you and your loved ones.
Until next time,
Wendy
Sassy & Sensational
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